Marriage is Work

With all of the frustrations, problems, arguments, and challenges of marriage, why do couples end up staying together? Why do some not stay together? In a marriage, men and women respond differently from each other. Research shows-generally speaking, that during marital intimacy, a woman wants to feel safe, close, and warm before can feel like she can have sexual interactions with her husband. On the other hand, men, generally speaking, want to have sexual intimacy in order for him to feel safe, close, and warm. If you imagine this system in a circular form, it basically says that men and women complete each other! The whole point of sexual intimacy is not for the excitement or pleasure. After a man and woman are legally and lawfully marriage(and sealed for time and all eternity), a plan should be made for your future together and your family. How many kids will you have? When will you have them? These are all important decisions that cannot "just happen" by accident or being unprepared. Both the husband and wife should be on the same page and in agreement. This is where communication comes in handy!

If there is no communication involved in a marriage, it can cause many marital and emotional problems. When a woman has a long day at work, or busy day with the kids, she wants to talk with her husband or friends and just vent about her day! A man wants to come home from work, eat dinner, watch the game, and go to bed. Not everyone, but a high percentage is similar. A wife can feel neglected or not important if there is a lack of communication. A husband can feel shame or embarrassment. During challenging times in a marriage, it is so important and key to a successful marriage when open communication is there. Even if there was just a misunderstanding between you and your spouse, be open to talk about anything. You are building your love and relationship together on trust. When you share, you bond. When you love, you grow. True love can be expressed through not just what happens in the bedroom, but can also be shown through sincere acts of service-when you put your spouse before yourself. It is during times you show gratitude for each other, work together to strengthen each other and are selfless. Marriage is work. Marriage is love. Marriage can work out and you can be successful when you and your spouse are working towards the same eternal goal.